Back in the olden times (vedic period), women were given utmost respect and treated as “devi”..They were well qualified and had the freedom to choose their partners. Mughals screwed it all up and then the status of women deteriorated from bad to worse..
Gender bias, female foeticide, rapes, domestic violence, dowry harassment..the list just goes on!!
Most men in India think they’re some sort of demi-gods. What they do not realise is that if they REALLY were superior, they would’ve been capable of giving birth and would’ve come straight out of bodies of other men..Their mothers happen to be all women and had it not been for those women, they would’ve landed up in drainage pipes along with millions and millions of other sperms!
Clothes worn by women are in no goddamn way an invitation for a rape. 5-year-olds do not incite men to rape them. A monster will do it any which way! Politicians, morons in khaaps and the thullas need to shut their traps!! We need action, not bakwaas bhaashan!
Blame the totally screwed up upbringing by pathetic parents (surprisingly mothers have a very important role to play here) who pump such ego’s and create monsters!! Yes, the training starts at home! Starts with the want of a male child and ends in finding a cow of a girl as a bride who’s expected to maintain a mellowed down image and make all the compromises because the chauvinistic goons haven’t been brought up to do so. By the time they grow up, the parents have already managed to screw up their personalities beyond repair. It’s appalling to see women making things tough for other women!!
A woman isn’t there to cook your goddamn meal or clean up..That expectations is absolutely abhorrent!! If you don’t like doing any of that, women don’t like it either!! Men have perfectly functional set of hands! If a woman can function like a superwoman, men too can at least be, Robin, if not Batman! The only thing that needs some cleaning is the extremely screwed up chauvinistic brain and the backward mindset of the society!!
I‘m not a big fan ofthe highly shallow and so-called Indian culture. Everything about it sounds so patriarchal and totally unacceptable in the modern world!! And it wasn’t supposed to be like that (Ref. Vedas). We have a society that craves for the male child and the female is usually killed inside the womb itself, thereby, horribly screwing up the sex-ratio..
Indian culture is all about a zillion people poking their nose every now and then. A zillion others who come up with shitty moral lectures, that you feel, should be shoved up their backsides..Women are expected to be all composed and take whatever comes their way..Marriages are no bed of roses here..You are bombarded by the constant interference from the over-hyper families of the grooms, who make it horribly difficult for the modern, educated women to live under the same roof..A lot of people don’t have a sense of space and do not know where to draw the line and quit getting involved. I don’t have any problem with the oldies. It’s just the over-indulgent attitude that ticks me off.
More often than not, the woman is expected to be a part of the “guy’s family” and mould herself as if she never had an identity of her own. Why should the onus lie only on the woman? Why can’t a man work towards being a part of her (side) of the family as well. Yeah, tell the woman to cover herself up, tell her to keep her calm, tell her to make adjustments. How about teaching the boys to behave and treat women right??!! Sadly, it is usually the women who back such atrocious behaviour in boys.
Domestic violence and dowry harassment is yet another issue of prime importance. It is quite rampant, all thanks to the zero results that come out of reported cases and futile attempts of fighting it out in the courts. Justice delayed is clearly justice denied!
If this is what the Indian culture is all about, I love the western way of living!! They at least have a clear sense of space, yet are strongly bonded and the bond probably comes from the sense of space itself! Sense of equality and perfect law and order backs it all up!
It’s about time that women break free from these highly patriarchal shackles and live it up! Unless you know your own worth, no one else will! Your life, you live it your way! Raise your voices before it gets too late!
Parents – Puhhhhhlllleeeeezzzz raise your boys well..The society is full of crap already!! Teach them to respect women and not behave like absolute bastards who bring shame to mankind!! Teach them to be sincere, responsible citizens of the nation!!
As for the men who commit crime against women, should be castrated in public, put behind bars for a lifetime. No death sentence would ever suffice the trauma a woman is put through..No awfully painful court cases, no capital punishment straightaway..We need some serious laws! No more beating around the bush and passing the buck!
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Is it always necessary that one has to be superior than the other in a two or more entity system?I am indeed in complete support of anything that gives anyone any priority based on gender, but what mechanisms do you suggest to achieve a balance? There is another angle as well. Few quick instances that I can recall are following. Not pointing to these specific observations but just to throw another light. Let me know what do you think?Scenario 1:Mumbai Local (Or anywhere there is a separate arrangement for women): There are many dedicated cars in the train reserved for women. There are also trains reserved completely for women, which are run at peak hours, still it is often that women walk into the "general" cars a good numbers because the reserved cars are relatively more densely occupied. Some even give the reason that is a lot of chatter in those cars so seeking tranquillity the chose not travel in cars reserved for women. Why? Men have feet which don't hurt? Someone who works all day, physically/mentally or sometimes both does not have the right to even be able to sit while travelling to serve to a mere convenience of someone? Should he treat you equally and if so, push around and make his place like he would have otherwise done?Scenario 2: Just a couple of days back, I was waiting at a red signal when I noticed that a woman got out of her car, brisk walked to the auto rickshaw ahead of her car and before I could comprehend anything, she slapped the driver right on his face. Startled by such "unpleasant" (shall I say!) experience the driver could not immediately react. She then went on cursing him for his inability to move ahead over other vehicles perhaps. Her reason to justify such rage was that this rickshaw was unfortunate to have stopped next to the gate of the society gate where she lived. This halt was not deliberate but only because of the traffic signal. There were vehicles ahead of him and there was no way he could had moved ahead enough to allow her car to pass into gate. This lady could not wait for about 120 secs and the easiest solution she could think of to vent out her frustration (over the signal perhaps) was to slap the driver. He, however, was indeed angry and did raise his voice, but was luckily he was civilized enough to not reciprocate in the same manner. So much for women liberty? I would not use the term equality because the very act of seeking any kind of reservation/liberty, categorizes you. Either you can advocate a mechanism for reservation or be among the equals. You cannot advocate both.Scenario 3: This unfortunately happened with me, over the western express highway, I was lucky to spot a green signal and was about to cross it just when a woman in her 40s perhaps, began to cross the road. She started walking from right under the signal post when it was green! I immediately applied the brakes but could not prevent the creaking sound of the wheels to which she was alarmed. Within minutes people gathered, and she along with unknown others began cursing me for my reckless driving. I was forced to apologise for attempting to drive through a green signal. How could she attempt to blame someone else when she was the one who had violated it. This clearly indicates the mindset,” Ï am a woman, so you are always wrong”. Such instances highlight the increasing immoral exercise of gender based liberty. It is from both ends. From men, I must admit that it is indeed more among few segments of the society but not everywhere and not always. In fact, the proliferating mentality of "women first" is promoting a lot of women to exploit based on gender. It is not rare to find instances where the table has turned. What are your suggestions on this aspect? How can we achieve a balance? As I stated above, and repeat, either one can seek reservation based on his/her gender or any innate trait (and this would mean self categorization) or expect to be treated equally and not complain.
Shiva, the incidents that you have narrated here are a result of sheer madness, lack of patience and manipulative behaviour that people are imbibed with these days..Genders do not have anything to do in the incidents mentioned by you.The incident where the woman slapped the auto-driver is a classic case of people losing their patience now-a-days..Since it was the woman who slapped her, it caught everyone's attention..I've seen plenty of men indulging into road rage..How is that justified?The other example of people making a hue and cry over the sudden breaks, they would have done it with a man as well..India is a country that's full of jaywalkers..In case of an accident where a pedestrian is hurt because of a biker, it's always the bikers fault..If a bike and a car collide, it's definitely the car driver's fault..If it's a case where a car and a truck collide, the car driver is at fault, even if the car driver was driving on the wrong side of the road..Again, it had nothing to do with the gender..Coming to the first incident now, the reason why the compartments are separate is that men in India have a tendency of shoving and molesting (thanks to the country's take on sexuality). If women land up in general compartments, men do the same. It speaks of lack of discipline and not abiding by rules in general, nothing to do with the genders.In all the three incidents, I do not see how gender comes into play. The country is faced with a myriad of problems from putting women down in a zillion ways to dealing with sexually starved and highly desperate men..Women just seek equality and respect..We don't want to be put at a higher pedestal, just equal..Cheers! 🙂